He might as well looked like this...
This is a bizarre experience and is 100% true, except his name. This is one experience I hope no other woman would ever to through. Bare yourself! So here it goes… Ben was an Iraqi Freedom Marine Veteran. He was about 30 years old when I first started seeing him, and I was 19. I know that was bit of an age difference but I like’em aged. He was over 6’5, had a great body and was attractive. Ben was the kind of guy who got attention from both women and men when he walked into a room, mostly due to his height. He seemed to be a catch. He had a great personality (at the time) and was very cool and down to earth. Yup, I thought I had found someone (yeah, right).
Then, shit got weird. He introduced his porn collection way too early in the relationship. This honestly should have been a warning sign. Though I realized that it was, I completely ignored it because I so badly wanted someone, that I really didn’t care about some porno in a box. Ben showing me all his porno DVDs in a shoe box was off putting but other than that at the time, he was okay.
He would randomly talk about things out of the blue. He told me that he had had a threesome with another guy and a girl; and that the guy was bisexual. I thought it was weird that he had told me the sexual orientation of this guy. Not that it mattered, but it did make me feel a little uneasy. I asked him if he had any physical contact with the guy during the threesome. He told me no, and that he was a good friend. So, any slight thoughts of weirdness that was in my head had banished. After, seeing me a little un-easy he laughed and told me that this “bi” friend often comes over and they usual watch porn together and jerked off. I thought it was a funny joke, I thought it was hilarious.
After a while we stopped dating. I was extremely busy and had to go back to school. After a couple of months when I came back from college, he wanted to start hanging out again. So I agreed and we started to catch up with one another. He had changed his attitude towards me. He started to be a little harsh. Every time we got into an argument he would tell me that I am just a little girl and that I was baby. So I responded that that would make him a pedophile. Anyways while hanging out one day, he decided to tell me a very interesting story. Well, THE STORY. It went something like this:
BEN: So remember my friend who I had the threesome with, you know the bisexual?
ME: Yah, what about him?
BEN: Well, you know how he comes over to jerk off right?
ME: WHATTTTTTT!!!! I thought that was a joke! (IN SHOCK…like complete SHOCK).
BEN: No, I was serious.
(Me, still in shock… so I guess circle jerks and all that exists. I mean I don’t know any guys who jerk off with others guys… is this a military thing? I mean I don’t think so, they usually are not down with those things right? WTF!)
BEN: Well, he came over the other day and we were jerking and stuff and like he asked if he can jerk me off a little. So I let him seeing that he is my friend and all, and then I felt bad and wanted to be polite so I return the favor and jerked him off too.
ME: WHATTTTT! ARE YOU SERIOUS, WOW!
BEN: Yes I am. There is nothing wrong with that. It meant nothing I mean, I’m not gay or anything like that.
ME: Oh I see. (Bullshit).
He quickly changed the topic there after. I stayed maybe a half hour after just so that I didn’t leave awkwardly. And that was the last time I ever saw him again.
As you can imagine, he kept calling me to hangout and I continued to tell him that I was busy with work. He started to revert back to a child. He called me names, he said that I was stupid and childish. That I was a product of society, a typical of my generation (whatever that meant). That I was fat and ate Mc Donald’s all day (so not true) and that I was ugly and all that jazz. I told him that he needed to come out the closet. And then I blocked his contacts. He had turned into a major douche bag. I couldn’t believe he couldn’t admit he was gay or bisexual. I mean can you be straight and do all of that? He believed that he couldn’t be either because he was so tough and big and a marine. Which is complete bullshit, and we know it. I mean he was done with the military so it wasn’t like he really had to hide. That hold situation with jerking off with that guy was enough to stop seeing him, beside the point; it would have never lasted the way he grew to treat me. I think he is full of shit, I asked some gay friends of mine, and they think that he is completely gay. Is he gay, straight, or bisexual? What do you think?
Tags: bisexual, dating, Gay, jerk, love, marine, military, relationships, sex, straight
